Formerly "To China For Kelly"

When I originally set up this blog, it was to chronicle our trip to China to adopt our daughter, Kelly; thus the title, "To China For Kelly." But now that I've decided to keep it up as my on-line scrapbook/journal, the title needs updating.
Inspired by my girls, who, despite their ten year age difference, both love lollipops and lip gloss; it is now titled, "From Lollipops to Lip Gloss." This is not to leave my son out, who also loves lollipops, but isn't too big on lip gloss, understandably!

Thursday, November 6, 2008

Challenges






It seems we have entered a new phase with Kelly these days; a phase I will affectionately call, "Challenges."


It's actually been going on for several weeks, but it's taken me a while to realize I'm in it.

Let's see- my realization started one morning when Kelly managed to get up on her tippy-toes and pull an eighteen pack of raw eggs off the kitchen counter down all over herself and the floor! Of course, Caleb thought it was hilarious and said we should take a picture of the mess before I cleaned it up. I was not as amused, but I still would have taken the picture and inserted it here had I taken it; however, my camera battery happened to be dead at the time, so, sorry, no picture...

Should we reenact the crime just for the picture? Hmmm... I'm going to say "Nah..."

Since then, Kelly has continued to morph from a cautious, timid, baby girl to somewhat of a Taz! She runs all the time- everywhere she goes. She falls at least a dozen times a day, never to be phased by the fall... she just gets right back up and runs again...

She tears through everything she can... she leaves a trail similar to, but not quite as devastating as what hurricanes and tornadoes leave behind. I can't tell you how many toilet paper rolls have been unraveled all over the bathroom floor, sometimes right into the toilet...


I have a couple of kitchen cabinets that don't have locks on them just so Kelly can play in them, and every day, at least twice a day, she takes every piece of Tupperware, every baby bottle, and every water bottle out and spreads them all over the kitchen floor.

Then Wednesday was a doosy! I was sitting on the floor with her while she was playing, and I was on the phone with a friend. As Kelly often does in a room full of toys surrounding her, she was playing with a CD case. She was about a foot from me when out of the blue, with all her might, she threw that CD case right at my face.
Here I am, right in the middle of a conversation with my friend, and all of the sudden I'm screaming out in pain and shock right in my girlfriend's ear! I instantly began to cry because the CD case hit the bridge of my nose so hard, right below my eyes, and whoowee, it hurt! I couldn't believe Kelly had done that, and I scolded her as I was crying, hoping she'd realize the 'cause and effect' of her choice to chuck the CD case at me. Then I picked her up and put her in her crib for a little "time out." As I was putting her in her crib, I began to notice something bright red on my nose. Yes, I was bleeding...

Kelly managed to give me a nice little gash on my nose! At first, it swelled, so it was kind of gaping and I wondered what kind of scar it was going to leave. I held a wet paper towel on it with direct pressure to stop the bleeding, and after about ten minutes, it was closed and looked much better. It's still sore- it feels a bit bruised, but it's healing well and doesn't look too bad at all... consequently, I'm not getting nearly the sympathy I deserve. =(

Other challenges we're facing with Kelly... well, she's exploring her ability to grab toys from other children, and hit or push them if they don't willingly surrender their goods. The hitting is something we've been challenged with for a while, but at first, I think it was almost inadvertent, like she just didn't know how to express interest in things, animals, or people, without reaching out and hitting them... but now it's obviously a willful expression of displeasure with the person or thing.

She's also throwing fits pretty regularly. When she doesn't get her way or when something frustrates her- she falls on the floor, screams and cries, and kicks her feet. She tried falling onto her back at first, but she kept hitting her head on the tile (I believe in "natural consequences";) so now she falls to a "sit" when she throws a fit. It's pretty funny... (okay, not always, but in hindsight I can't help but giggle...)

She also whines a lot these days. If she wants to be picked up, if she wants something she can't reach, if she's bored, wants attention, doesn't like what's on TV... okay, so there's really no reason... she just likes to whine. I think I'm going to start offering her some cheese with her whine.
So, now do you understand why I say we're facing some challenges these days?

I have days where I feel like all I do is scold her... tell her, "No!", "STOP.", "That's not nice.", "We don't do that.", "That's not okay.", and my personal favorite, "KELLY ELISE!" (That's what middle names are for, right? So moms can emphasize our displeasure with our children ;)


But despite it all, she is still our precious baby girl, and I wouldn't trade a minute of it for the world.


Some of the more positive things about Kelly are:



She is so spunky and fun. She loves to dance- give that girl a beat and she'll break it down! She actually has some great moves... I need to video her so you can see for yourself.


She also loves classical music. I'm noticing that if I play it regularly during the day, it actually seems to help when she's having a hard day. She seems happier and more pleasant. Guess there really is something to that Baby Einstein stuff, huh?




She has some of the cutest expressions- she makes us laugh all the time with her animated facial expressions. (It's always by surprise, so it's very hard to catch on camera!)

She loves her bath too. She absolutely loves to splash- she thinks that's hilarious!




She sleeps great! She may not nap very well during the day, but she generally goes down at 8pm and wakes up around 7am, so she lets her mommy and daddy get a good night's sleep. That is one thing that's at the top of my "Count Your Blessings" list, if you know what I mean!




She's becoming more and more affectionate. She will spontaniously reach over and grab my face and plant a kiss right on my lips several times a day. Or she'll lean over and grab me and give me a big hug with lots of back pats. It's soo sweet- melts me every time.







11 comments:

Blomquist Blog said...

Oh Jen,

I am sorry that your days have been challenging lately. I hope that Kelly is just going through a phase and she will quickly learn that throwing fits and whining is going to get her nowhere. Hang in there. Surround her with your wonderful love and there will be brighter days ahead. Good luck!

Love ya,

Deb

Clint and Jennifer said...

Thanks for the sympathy and the wishes for better days ahead, Deb. I appreciate it so much! I think you're right- it's just a phase and she just needs to learn those things aren't going to get her anywhere. Until then, I'm praying for patience and sending God more knee-mail than usual! LOL
Love ya,
Jen

Trina said...

Hi Jen,
I know we have never met in person, but I feel like I know you. If it is any help at all my sweet Pearson (14 months) is doing many of the same things you described Kelly doing. He loves to get into all the kitchen cabinets that don't have latches(why my sweet hubby didn't put on more I'm not quite sure) , when Pearson is frustrated or angry he will throw himself on the floor to kick his feet and scream, he still enjoys throwing food on the floor when finished with meals(even though I thought this beh was over, oh no!!) I too feel like I say "no, Pearson and no touch" all day. Pearson too has many many cute and great qualities too, I try to focus on those. Girl, have a good cry anytime and hang in there!! And calling your sister always helps me, so try that for therapy too. Praying for you in Colorado,
Trina

Clint and Jennifer said...

That was so sweet of you to share in my misery, Trina! LOL We mommies of toddlers have to stick together!
I do sooo appreciate your encouragment, and yes, Jen is a great therapist, always there for me when I'm ready to pull my hair out.
I feel like I know you too, so I'm so happy to hear from you! Pearson is a doll- thanks for helping me to know that Kelly's not the only one going through this challenging phase.
The only thing I know from having two older ones is that one day, we'll look back on it all (what we can still remember that is!) and laugh and wish it hadn't gone by so fast.
Thanks again for the words of encouragment.
Jen =)

Unknown said...

Hang in there girl! You can do it. You are great at training your kiddos. You have always been an inspiration to me and now after the 2nd child I can see how the training techniques we have used really do work. Have a plan of how you will deal with the situation and then be consistent. I will be praying for you.

Love you lots-merl

Clint and Jennifer said...

Thanks Merl!
I can already say this week it's been better. I've noticed Kelly's doing better with the whining and she's not throwing fits as much. She's still pretty much a little Taz, but at least she's getting back to her sweet self. I hope to talk to you more soon! Thanks for the encouragement.
Love ya,
Jen

fourlittlehawks said...

Jen, the picture of the kitten leaping through the air to pounce on the other kitten totally reminds me of you waking me up in the morning! Don't you think so?

Love,
Jen

Beth and Terrell said...

Oh Jen, I so feel your pain. You write so well that I actually DID feel your pain with the CD case. The beginning of the "toddler years" chapter in one of those baby books is "it was the best of times, it was the worst of times". I always say to Jia - "it's a good thing you're so cute"! :) Terrell knows when he hears that statement it is time to come help! My thoughts and hugs are with you. The stereotypical terrible twos start anywhere around that age and you just may be there. Hugs.

Beth

Beth and Terrell said...

Oh, and p.s. Jen - it's not like I have ANY idea what I'm talking about! I'm a first time mom and you've so been there done that! I know we're just entering this phase so I'm learning from you too! I also LOVE that her big brother is there to get right in the pack-n-play with her!!

Clint and Jennifer said...

Beth, thanks for your sweet and understanding words of sympathy and encouragement. I always laugh when I read your blog and you call Jia your little firestorm. How I DO relate! Perfect description. LOL
And when you shared the pictures of one of Jia's favorite toys- a box of Kleenex- I had to laugh! She and Kelly would surely have a ball tearing it up together- literally!!! LOL
Believe me- I may have done this before, but it's been so long since I've been here that I feel like I'm learning it all over again! I definitely appreciate any words of wisdom you have to share! I think you're right, the "terrible twos" are already beginning... yes, it was "the best of times, it was the worst of times..." for sure!
Thanks for the hugs-
Jen =)

Clint and Jennifer said...

Sissy,
LOL
YES, that's definitely the way I used to wake you up! What fun it was!
At least for me! tee hee ;)
Love ya,
Jen